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Grief rarely comes with instructions. If you’re wondering whether this is for you, or what to expect, here’s what men ask us most.

Ben Hellendoorn

Grief changes everything.
But you’re still here… and that matters.

This channel is for anyone who has lost a spouse, family member, or someone they love, and is trying to figure out how to keep going.

I’m Ben, a grief mentor who has walked through loss personally. Here, we talk honestly about what grief really feels like, the waves, the loneliness, the questions no one prepares you for.

You’ll find guidance, real conversations, and practical ways to navigate life after loss. No clichés. No pressure to “move on.” Just a place to feel understood and take the next step forward.

You’re not alone in this. Not here.

Ben Hellendoorn
Carrying grief alone? If you're a man grieving in the garage, in the truck, or on the job site, and telling everyone you're fine, you're not the only one. Grief support for men doesn't start with the right words. It starts with one person sitting with you. Job's friends got a lot wrong, but when they first arrived, they sat on the ground with him for seven days and said nothing (Job 2:13). That's how to grieve with someone, and how to let someone grieve with you. It's okay to cry, and it's okay to ask for help. Watch the full video, "Told to Stop Crying and Just Trust God? What the Bible Actually Says About Grief": https://youtu.be/JdYWxgZbCT4?si=Clm1HOhfs_utV2sh If you want to talk with someone who has sat with a lot of grieving men, visit StillHereSupport.com. Men's grief group: The Table.
Stop trying to fix their pain #grief #friendship
Five honest lines you can say out loud in the car, the shower, or the kitchen at 2 a.m. Full video:https://youtu.be/JdYWxgZbCT4?si=Clm1HOhfs_utV2sh StillHereSupport.com When you have no words for your pain, here is a simple grief prayer to help you bring your honest struggles before God. Sometimes the weight of loss makes it impossible to form a coherent sentence. If you are feeling angry, confused, or just empty, know that you do not need to use polished language to be heard. This short, five-line prayer is designed to help you express exactly where you are, validating your experience rather than asking you to rush through your emotions. We look at Psalm 56 and the reality that God collects every tear and sorrow, meaning you can bring your rawest feelings to him without fear of judgment. Dealing with loss is exhausting, and biblical grief often involves the kind of honest prayer that acknowledges the dark, difficult places we find ourselves in. You do not have to carry the burden of finding the right words alone. Subscribe for more honest conversations about faith and mental health, and let me know in the comments: what is one way you have found permission to be honest with God during your toughest days? If you want to talk with someone who has sat with a lot of grieving people, visit StillHereSupport.com or email ben@stillheresupport.com. Men's grief group: The Table.
What to say when you have no words for God #prayer #grief
When Jesus was in the worst pain a person can be in, He prayed a lament. You're allowed to as well. Full video: https://youtu.be/JdYWxgZbCT4?si=Clm1HOhfs_utV2sh StillHereSupport.com Jesus experienced deep sorrow and asked for company in his darkest hour. Learn why expressing your raw emotions is a valid part of your grief and faith. When we look at Jesus' words from the cross, we see that even the Son of God expressed overwhelming feelings. Many of us have been told that we should just be okay after a loss, but this video explores why suppressing your pain is not a requirement for belief. We discuss how Jesus’ own experience in the Garden of Gethsemane gives us permission to be honest about our suffering it teaches us biblical grief. This is an invitation to bring your honest prayer to God rather than hiding your true state of mind. By recognizing that lament is a recognized part of scripture, you can stop forcing positivity and start navigating your hardest days with authenticity. Finding the courage to speak your truth is a significant step toward healing. Subscribe for more honest conversations about faith and mental health, and let me know in the comments: what has been the most unhelpful advice you have received while grieving?
It’s okay to not be okay: A lesson from the cross ✝️ #faith #comfort
Psalm 88 has no happy ending, and God kept it in the Bible anyway. Full video: https://youtu.be/JdYWxgZbCT4?si=Clm1HOhfs_utV2sh StillHereSupport.com Psalm 88 is often called the darkest prayer in the Bible. Here is why God included it and why it matters for your faith. Many people are taught that prayer should always lead to comfort or a quick resolution. But Psalm 88 stands apart as a raw, honest prayer that refuses to resolve itself. It reminds us that scripture creates space for the deepest forms of biblical grief, acknowledging that sometimes life feels like it is ending in the dark. If you have felt like your prayers are going unanswered, this passage offers profound permission to stop forcing a happy ending. Engaging in this kind of lament is not a sign of weak faith; it is a way to bring your actual, painful experience before God without hiding. By looking at how this prayer in pain is intentionally preserved in the text, you can find the validation you need to be completely honest in your own relationship with God. Subscribe for more honest conversations about faith and mental health, and share in the comments: have you ever felt like your prayers were stuck in the dark?
When your prayers don't have a happy ending ❤️‍🔥 #Psalm88 #Prayer
Has someone told you to stop crying and just trust God? Honest prayer in grief is not a lack of faith. Full video:https://youtu.be/JdYWxgZbCT4?si=Clm1HOhfs_utV2sh StillHereSupport.com Hashtags: #grief #griefandfaith #christiangrief
Why you don't have to 'just trust' through the pain 🙏 #grief #bible #psalms
Has someone told you to stop crying and just trust God? Here's what the Bible actually says about grief and faith, and why lament, honest prayer in pain, is not a lack of faith. If you've been angry at God after a loss, you're not the only one. In this video: Isaiah 53, Psalm 13, Psalm 22, Psalm 88, Lamentations 3, Psalm 56, Romans 8, Matthew 11, Romans 12 and Job 2. Have you been told to just trust God while mourning? Discover what biblical grief actually looks like and why lament is vital. Being told to simply trust God after a painful loss often feels dismissive. This video explores why that advice can hurt more than it helps and how the Bible actually provides a framework for expressing profound sorrow. We look at passages like Psalm 22:1 and Psalm 88 to understand that coping with loss does not require you to hide your pain or rush through your emotions. True lamentation is a recognized part of scripture, offering a way to bring your raw, honest struggles before God rather than suppressing them. By separating simplistic platitudes from the depth of biblical truth, you can find permission to grieve authentically. Dealing with grief is a heavy process, and recognizing that the Bible validates your suffering can be a significant step toward healing. Subscribe for more honest conversations about faith and mental health, and let me know in the comments: what has been the most unhelpful advice you have received while grieving? Is your faith being used to silence your pain? Learn why the Bible actually invites you to bring your raw biblical grief to God. Being told to simply trust God after a significant loss often feels like a dismissal of your actual experience. Many people are surprised to find that the scriptures do not demand silence or forced positivity in the face of tragedy. Instead, the Bible provides a framework for expressing profound sorrow through the practice of lamentation, which is a vital part of the human relationship with the divine. By looking at passages like Psalm 88 and Psalm 22, we can see that honest prayer in pain is not a lack of faith. You do not have to hide your struggles or rush through your emotions to please God. Recognizing that your suffering is acknowledged in the text can be a significant step toward navigating faith and loss while you carry the weight of your experience. Subscribe for more honest conversations about faith and mental health, and share in the comments: what is one way you have found permission to be honest with God during your toughest days? 0:00 Told to stop crying and just trust God 1:31 The lie: "If you trusted God, you wouldn't be this sad" 2:37 Grief is carried, not light (Isaiah 53) 3:14 Lament is in the Bible (Psalm 13, 22, Lamentations) 4:55 Psalm 88: the prayer that ends in the dark 5:39 What lament actually is 7:01 A five-line prayer you can say out loud 7:50 You don't carry it alone 8:47 Three small things to do this week If you want to talk with someone who has sat with a lot of grieving people, visit StillHereSupport.com or email ben@stillheresupport.com. Men's grief group: The Table. #grief #griefandfaith #christiangrief
Told to Stop Crying and Just Trust God? What the Bible Actually Says About Grief
Struggling with grief brain and constant forgetfulness? You are not alone. Memory loss is a common symptom of grieving, but you do not have to struggle through it alone. This guide offers practical strategies to manage your daily tasks, from using external reminders to simplifying your to-do lists. Stop relying solely on your memory and start using these tools to ease your mental load today. Subscribe for more practical tips on navigating the challenges of grief.
Grief Brain: Why You're Forgetting Everything #grief
Struggling with grief brain at work? Here is how to manage the fog and keep moving forward. When you are dealing with significant loss, concentration issues often make simple tasks feel impossible. This guide explains why your brain feels exhausted and offers practical ways to slow down, reduce stress, and adjust your workflow without the self-criticism. If you need gentle, actionable grief support, these strategies are designed for you. Subscribe for more practical mental health tips to help you navigate your day.
Why your brain feels broken right now #grief #griefsupport
Struggling with grief brain? If you keep reading the same paragraph over and over, you aren't alone. This video explores why mental exhaustion and emotional stress make it difficult to focus on simple tasks. Learn how to stop the cycle of self-criticism and practice self-compassion while navigating your recovery. If this resonated with you, subscribe for more honest conversations about mental health and healing.
Why grief makes simple tasks feel impossible #griefjourney #mentalhealth #brainfog
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